Relationship - Is There a Priority to Criticism?

There's a lived experience around being in the intellect is safer. No one really responds well to unsolicited feedback. Even if your partner has some truth, it still feels like criticism unless we're soliciting it and want that feedback. And of course, so this is where it gets much more difficult is, again, if I want to criticize, right, it's more likely about me than it is really about my partner.