What Does It Mean for a Wife to Substitute Her Husband?

i'm not actually threatened by that idea, i might mi say it elsewhere in le however we understand it. But chrysostom also says that, what does it mean for a wife to submit to her husband? She shouldn't stubbornly contradict her husband, and she shouldn't seek to be the head. So how do we reconcile that without kind of evacuating that verse and the thought of the fathers such that it's how we might say it to day, is unrecognizable to them? Beause i dont want to do that lucky. I'd rather be wrong with them than right with some modern day theological author. And so this idea that men and women are exactly the same,