Is There a Codependency in Relationships?

Sally Kohn: I uncovered a strong vein of codependency in the relationship that I have with Ben and in several if not all of the relationships that I have in my life. If you don't know what codependency is, you're lucky. She says it's when in order to feel good, safe, you primarily direct your focus outwards. Kohn: We've been friends for I think 21 years and we've carried patterns from the 14 and the 24 year old self up to the 34, 35 year old self without checking those.