"I think what could be going on is that you have a feeling that something in you is busted. And that's not an inaccurate feeling, because how else do you explain these people ghosting?" "Your mind does all these compensatory mechanisms to grow and deve own that your mind doing," he says. 'You can never find the answer for what's wrong with you,' she adds. "'If i've let my parents treat me like there's nothing wrong with me, so likely it comes from outside' Let me just give you another example of abuse: I was abused as a child by adults who didn't care about me."