If you feel like someone in your home is always shutting down, melting down, or firing back, you’re not imagining it. Reactivity takes over fast, especially in stressed or neurodiverse families. In this episode, we’ll explain why it happens, how to spot each SODA pattern, and what to do in the moment to create safety and calm. Tune in to learn one shift that can lower stress for everyone in your home.

What to expect in this episode:

Why reactivity comes from the body, not willpower, and how that changes your approach
How the SODA framework explains shutdowns, defensiveness, explosions, and avoidance
The “wrong equals bad” belief that drives shame and emotional overwhelm in kids
Why emotional safety matters more than logic when helping kids learn and regulate
How co-regulation can interrupt spirals and bring everyone back to calm

Related Links:

EP187: Emotionally Intelligent Parenting
https://impactparents.com/emotionally-intelligent-parenting
EP200: Reduce Family Stress by Taking Aim
https://impactparents.com/reduce-family-stress-by-taking-aim
EP207: Rebuilding Trust with Teens: Cleaning the Slate Conversations
https://impactparents.com/rebuilding-trust-with-teens-cleaning-the-slate-conversations

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