Being mindful of are we hooked in together because something really hard happened to both of us that doesn't mean that this relationship we should be bonded to each other. Think about the ridiculous decisions that we make for work friends sometimes oh yeah like well we'll stay. It's so hard to not be so dialed in to relationship in which you feel like this other person knows exactly what it was like when we went through this thing together and so I know we don't really see that in this movie that I'm worth maybe in the other three.