How to Regulate the Experiences of the Other Person

Using the peter fonegy anthony bate bateman list, what happens next is monitoring the actio the accuracy of the state of mind. We begin to be able to track the different mindsta a three is awareness of one's own influence on another's state or behaviour. And vice versa. So can you track that? This is the experience i'm having, this is the action, and it has an effect on the other person. Can i understand the effect that it's having, and then they respond, and that had an effect on me? And an i track all that in real time? Then the fourth one is becoming aware of one's state of mind in such