Some people always make things your fault, right? If you say anything to them, like any kind of conflict or even remotely thing that's close to conflict, somehow becomes your fault. So they engage in particular behaviors or like evoke certain feelings in you where they kind of make you feel like crap. This is what it usually takes to develop a relationship with someone who emotionally manipulates you,. You have to be like, when you feel guilty or ashamed or angry or something like that, you need to deal with those negative emotions by fixing something in the situation.