How Do You Become a Social Agent?

If you feel yourself falling in cause you're anxious, then what you do as you push your attention out and pay attention to the person. So if they start talking to you and you don't understand something about what they're saying, or maybe something they said is interesting, and you ask them a question, they're pretty damn happy about that, because it means you're actually paying attention to them. And people, actua love to be paid attention to, because it hardly ever happens. So they really, really like it....