Gwendolyn: Is your friend feeling her feelings or is she kind of just like, this is the thing I need to get done and let me get through it and then deal with my feelings later? "I think one of her coping mechanisms is to withdraw a bit," Gwendolyn says. The other two friends and I are often like, okay, how do we approach a wee reach out to to get done? And mostly to check in, I am in touch with her wife, with her partner.
When Gwendolyn found out her friend was diagnosed with cancer, she knew she wanted to help. She just didn’t know how. Her friend lives hundreds of miles away. How can she help in a way that’s more meaningful than sending a meal and a few encouraging texts? On this episode of How To!, guest-host Courtney Martin brings on Mia Birdsong, author of the book How We Show Up. Mia went through her own cancer journey and figured out structures of support that not only helped her but made supporting easier for her friends.
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