If you feel like you need to drink instead of having conversation, i want to say, that's a great topic for therapy. Alcohol is the central nervous system. It turns things off in your central nervous system and when you get past the pleasure plateau, it makes your ability to make decisions worse. So how can people who maybe right now are feeling like it's easier to have sex than to talk about sex? How can they start building the skills of talking about it? Emily negaske: You have to unlearn everything you thought you knew about bodies and intimacy and pleasure and gender.
Sex is such a big part of being human. It's how our species persists, but it's also so much more than that. So why do we feel so uncomfortable talking about it? Emily Nagoski is a sex educator who argues that learning how to talk openly about sex — and unlearning some damaging misconceptions— can give you access to a more authentic and fulfilling sex life. She has a Ph.D. in health behavior, clinical internship experience at the Kinsey Institue, and is the author of the best-selling book “Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life.” To learn more about "How to Be a Better Human," host Chris Duffy, or find footnotes and additional resources, please visit: go.ted.com/betterhuman