"I have a fortune cookie with a similar sentiment that I keep taped to my laptop which states avoid compulsively making things worse," she says. "It's about the balancing act between having an honest relationship to your own shortcomings and seeing things clearly, but also understanding that there's only so much within our control." Her son has cerebral palsy; her daughter is his guardian angel. 'When you feel like maybe something, some blind spot you had might have caused that to happen, it's a big grief'