The key to getting more is wanting less. The trick is to want what you have, and also allowing your kid to take away your attention from self or making that phone call immediately. Taking action to do something for someone else is like the thing I would walk in my 20s just so and sober, but just level to buy an audition leveled by how I thought it should go. It did not live up to that expectation. And thus, a flood of self centered fear spirals come around.