"It's harder for us to identify with Daphne and the fact that within the marriage and in that society, she has no power. I'm not saying that what she did was right." "I think personally, like, you know, there can be as many schools of thought about this," says writer-producer Shonda Rhimes. 'You can depict protagonists doing bad things in your book but you need to convey that you are not endorsing that thing'