218. The Best Sex Ed You Never Had
You Are Not Broken
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The Benefits of Orgasm
"There's no right answer on that. So many people are like, how many? And I'm like, dude, that's like telling you to eat eight fruits and vegetables," she said. "If you make sex a bench checkmark, it loses its enjoyment." She says we should not tell women they need to have more sex with us because it's good for their bodies.
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The Best Sex Ed You Never Had
We all got a sex education – it just wasn’t accurate.
My Sex Ed course is coming out this Month! Get on the email list to join when it opens.
This was a talk I gave to medical doctors for a residency
program continuing education lecture.
Seasons of sexuality
Stress and sexuality
The importance of self-care in sexuality
Communication and sexuality
Sex as a skill that can be improved
Sexuality and gender equality
Stop Should-ing all over your sex life
If you got decent sex ed you were lucky
Sex is Complex – therefore so so interesting
Biopsychosocial
Your sexuality is not a fixed asset
Orgasms are good for us
Your biggest sex organ is your brain
Night shifts wreak your sexual function – any gender
Sex is dopamine, and we have cheaper dopamine in our current
society which competes with sex.
Defining heteronormativity
What Society tell us about sex (and is wrong about)
Pro tip: desire mismatch is normal
Pro tip: Why do you want to have sex? FEELINGS – list three
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If partnered: do you know theirs?
Orgasmic Inequality is real.
The Heteronormative Theory of Low Desire in Women Partnered
with Men
How Freud messed us up in regards to sex.
Do you actually “fall out of love” or does your brain
habituate and you are craving newness and dopamine?
Cognitive distractions are bad for good sex. Mindfulness and meditation can help.
How to improve sex as a skill
Relationship between sex and sexuality (sensuality) and ways to improve sex drive
How to have a balanced life, not put sexual health on the back burner
Stress effects on sexuality
Resources
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You are not broken book
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Becoming Cliterate
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Your body is not an apology
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Sex and Sexuality podcast
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How to find a sex therapist
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AAASECT.org
Take one action toward achieving a fulfilled life
Why does sex end when the male ejaculates?
The heteronormative definition of sex is not good for
anybody.
What we make lubrication mean.
How does your pelvic know that it is sexy time? Remember brain and pelvic arousal.
Our lack of ability to communicate to our partner’s about
why we want sex hurts us.
So many things about sex are aren’t actually about sex.
How to help post partum people and their partner’s
understand what is happening after birthing a baby. The biologic and psychosocial
component behind this
Even though we are not taught about sex, we are told things
about sex all the time.
Women: men didn’t get any more sex ed than we did….we have
to communicate our needs to them.
How to communicate about sex.
What does sensuality mean?
Don’t forget to desire things you already have.
What are your top three feelings you want to have during sex.
If you can’t turn off your frontal lobe you may have trouble with
orgasms.
Challenge your limiting beliefs about sex.
Figure out your obstacles to a good sex life – now you have the
pathway. The obstacles are the way.
Tips from people who have magnificent sex.
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