40. How you get off on nitpicking your partner with Chelsea Horton
The Anxious Love Coach
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Be Victim, You're a Victim
Be victim can be very kinky, and we can use it to jack off on our own self righteousness and misery. Some of us don't realize that we unconsciously are getting off on being a victim. It is much harder to work with the inner perpetrator than it is to working with the inner abuser. When we're not aware that we have this, it shows up in rape,. It shows up in mass shootings. And as soon as we realize that, we can actually say, ok, i have it in me to do all that i have meto be abusive. Im it. I haven't yet met some one who actually has never been a perpetrator in their life.
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