i just want to point out that we're alike, kind of all over the place. I think it's just that, like, things are not, things don't stay in their buckets. In bear's case, it sounds like he was just really in a toxic relationship. And also, you know what i am, i don't know if i'm really surprised by this or not,. It's that they just can't find them at's why i'm in that group. Ho, you ought to share a little bit about what that's been likeive kond o just did this self, and now i'm kond of oning out cause i cannot put all my attention on