Overcoming Guilt & Building Tenacity in Kids & Adults | Dr. Becky Kennedy
Huberman Lab
The Neurological Basis of Learning and Trauma
This chapter explores how stress and trauma impact brain learning processes, influenced by neurochemicals like norepinephrine and epinephrine. It highlights the phenomenon of one trial learning from negative experiences and discusses therapeutic strategies for processing trauma while maintaining brain plasticity.
In this episode, my guest is Dr. Becky Kennedy, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, renowned expert on parent-child relationships and founder of Good Inside, an educational platform for parents and parents-to-be. We discuss how to learn, embody, and teach better emotional processing, leading to healthier relationships in parenting, work, romantic partnerships and friendships. Dr. Kennedy shares practical strategies for managing guilt, building frustration tolerance, and nurturing emotional intelligence, as well as the impact of technology on emotional processing. This conversation aims to empower listeners to cultivate resilient, loving and supportive connections across all areas of life.
Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com.
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Timestamps
00:00:00 Dr. Becky Kennedy; LA Fires
00:03:13 Emotions, Parents & Kids, Information, Tools: Story; “Right to Notice”
00:11:24 Sponsors: Wealthfront & Our Place
00:14:25 Empathy, Kids & Parents
00:18:33 Sturdiness, Pilot Analogy, Tool: Parental Self-Care
00:26:34 Emotions, Rigidity, Moody vs Steady Kids, Siblings
00:32:51 Emotion Talk, Crying; Eye Rolls, Tools: Not Taking Bait; Discuss Struggle
00:39:26 Parent-Child Power Dynamics, Tools: Requests for Parent; Repair
00:48:50 Sponsors: AG1 & Joovv
00:51:39 Power & Authority, Tools: Learning More; Parent Primary Job & Safety
00:59:16 Statements of Stance, Actions vs Emotions; Values, Behaviors & Rigidity
01:05:59 Guilt, Women; Tools: “Not Guilt”, Tennis Court Analogy & Empathy
01:15:46 Sponsors: LMNT & Eight Sleep
01:18:41 Guilt, Relationships, Tool: Naming Values Directly
01:26:06 Locate Others & Values; Sturdy Leadership; Parenting & Shame
01:31:36 Egg Analogy & Boundaries; Tools: Frame Separation; Pilot & Turbulence; Safety
01:39:30 Projection, “Porous”; Tools: Gazing In vs Out, Most Generous Interpretation
01:45:51 Tools: “Soften”; Do Nothing & Difficult Situations; Proving Parenting
01:51:05 Gazing In vs Out, Scales; Self-Needs & Inconvenience
02:00:05 Stress & Story, Nervous; Relationships vs Efficiency
02:08:46 Technology, Relationships, Frustration Tolerance, Gratification
02:15:18 Slowing Down, Phones, Frustration, Capability
02:21:42 Immediate Gratification, Effort & Struggle, Dopamine
02:29:25 Confidence, Board Games, Parental Modeling
02:34:04 Ultra-Performers & Pressure, Emptiness
02:41:29 Trying Things, Unlived Dreams, Frustration Tolerance, Tool: Learning Space
02:51:08 Learning & Building Frustration Tolerance, Tantrums; Feelings & Story
03:03:00 Tool: Using Story; Shame, Punishment
03:12:55 Leadership & Storytelling, Tools: Asking Questions; Songs & Learning
03:23:21 Miss Edson, Momentum, Tool: Small First Steps
03:30:15 Tools: Parents & Starting Point
03:36:29 Good Inside, Zero-Cost Support, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, YouTube Feedback, Sponsors, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter
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