The Importance of Reaching the Place of Truth

When do you start? How do you know the times right for you to move closer towards maybe eliminating that interference? I think the interference is always there. So it's about approaching the state in which everything is on the player and finding that line as to when to say when not to say. That is done by first reaching the internal place where you need nothing from their performance. And so I guess what I'm saying as the words as I'm hearing myself speak is that the ultimate parenting becomes not being apparent at all or a coach.