Is Gaslighting a Bad Thing?

I think that the movies not necessarily saying that it's sooner, feminine is better. There's this deep, a unhealthiness,. and that now that masculinity has been filtered through a more modern lens. And we just normalize that. People are constantly trying to put themselves as the victim. I hear the word gas lighting being used too often. Ind behardly any any argument between partners. It's like well, i don't agree with your stanscause this, you're gaslighting, mel, right? Right?