You can be a perfect victim, but he chose instead to rewrite his story. Be the man that was missing in your life by putting your self around other men who already carry those traits. There's so many great books out there on personal leadership,. But are you willing to read it and apply to your life? You might have a moment of dopamine hit when you take the path of the victimBy telling someone your story, you get some kind of awesome feeling about the fact that they feel bad for you. Every time you tell your sad, pathetic story, all you do is reinforce the fact that you're sad, you're pathetic, you're undeserving.