How to Hold a Boundary for Behavior and Help the Child Feel Safe and Sene

Parents often don't know how to hold a boundary for behavior and help the child feel safe. This requires really tuning in to what's happening insideer, or doing what dan segl calls helping them feel felt. The long term goal of that is for the other person to say and feel,. after repeated experiences, not perfect ones, but repeated enough to say, they really got who i was, and they cared about me, or loved me for who i already am.