I'm Not Coming to Your Wedding, Right?

"I'm not interested in attending a wedding for somebody who doesn't see me and my partner as something worth celebrating either," she writes. "You don't owe this person the truth or the emotional labor of explaining why I don't want you to undermine your own experience just to like placate this person, right?" She says people block or lie because we've learned what we can expect from this person. But if you want closure that you're talking about around closure, you can just think about what you would like to say that you could be, that would give you that.