Conditional or Inconsistent Validation

If you've ever felt like no matter how much you get done, you're still somehow behind—behind in your work, behind in your life, behind where you think you should be—this episode is for you. We're going to look at why that "never enough" feeling shows up, how patterns like over-responsibility early in life, conditional validation, and fear-based survival wire us into always pushing and never quite feeling caught up, and how simply understanding this can start to soften the cycle you've been stuck in.

In this episode, you will learn:

• Why the feeling of being "behind" has so little to do with your actual productivity, and so much to do with how you learned to stay safe and valued
• The three core patterns that wire high-achievers into constant pressure, overdoing, and never feeling like enough
• How understanding where this cycle came from can start to loosen its grip, so you can relate to yourself with more compassion and less self-blame

✨ Remember: You are exactly where you need to be right now. ✨

00:00 Introduction: The Never Enough Feeling 01:20 Understanding the Feeling of Being Behind 03:18 Core Patterns Leading to Overwhelm 03:32 Over Responsibility in Childhood 05:10 Conditional or Inconsistent Validation 06:13 Fear-Based Survival 07:19 Breaking the Cycle and Self-Compassion 08:52 Re-Parenting and Self-Acceptance 10:37 Conclusion and Next Steps

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