"i don't know how you choose what to do. Well, val, that's my wife and i are super softies, and we're just going with that instinct." "Youare being bombarded with what to do, how to do it, all the different ways," he says of sleep training. 'And by the way, a lot of the same shame stuff applies,' she adds. "'It does sort of feel sort of like cheaty, like i'm being too lovy to the baby', but it also feels like the best thing in the world,'" writes Andi.