The Midlife Experience

I am part of the mid life experience is starting to feel like you can gauge what having another if you're lucky 30 to 40 years means it's not an abstract quantity. I have sort of ambivalence about that for all kinds of reasons some of which are just structural to being in the present moment and the grass is always greener kind of thing. One of the things I love about your writing is you talk about grief and absurdity and failure and topics that yes they're in the philosophical canon but like to address them explicitly. There's this distinction between T. lick or goal directed activities and A. T. lick and a sort of process directed activities where you value the process.