Is This Conversation Making Me Depressed Again?

You want to have these open ended conversations about expectations. What do they think is going to happen? You're not going to tell them to do something or tell them to doing something else. And that's when you start to establish your boundaries, right? The good news is that if you kind of keep chill and you sort of process some of your emotions and you really approach it problem solving, they may still play their adaptive defensive cards.