How to Balance Negative Emotions

What's the simplest way to balance something negative? You do the opposite of it. The best way I found to do that in my practice over the last couple of days, actually this come to me, is I just have been expressing gratitude like a fiend. Even pain. Instead of responding with annoyance, I said, hey, I found something that she was doing for me to be grateful for. That love brings you back to a neutral stand.