What Makes Secrets Harmful?

The average person at any given time has 13 secrets from a list of 38. When we ask people open ended, what's a secret you're keeping 92% of the time, if it's one of these items? The less your secret involves some clear goal or aspiration, the less insight you feel you have into the secret. We often feel like we don't understand them well. And so the bad news is that a secret can hurt you in these three different ways. But the good news is it's very, very rare that it hurts you in all three of the ways.