Set boundaries and don't it's actually on you. Don't do the action that alleviates the guilt, ecause that's exactly what your mam taught you to do that gets you into trouble with her. Get someone in your life like stephen or sounds like sometimes your mamd is supportive, but that's tangled, right? So like you and stephen are going to have other kinds of tensions on your relationship. And thon i think it's very healthy for you to have someone in your lives who can be a friend without sacrificing any viewership by being your friend"