Is Collaborative Parenting?

Couples often come feeling like they just don't see ida ay, they don't understand each other. And then when they share what they want for their children, that's the big picture thing, right? That it's very common to see that there's so many things that they wanted for their children that are the same. So i often find that if we can do that and seek to understand, then to be understood, you know, if we can look for what's really underneath what's going on,. What what is the concern?