The boxer floyd patterson was sent away to a boy's commune in upstate new york. There, under the guidance of a kind and unconventional psychologist, his world was changed for the first time. The doctor who changed his life explained the philosophy like this: punishment teaches the child only how to punish. Scolding teaches him how to scold. By showing him that we understand, we teach him to understand. By helping him, we teachhim to help. He learns co operation by cooperate. So what are you teaching your child right now when they mess up? Aus, that is the question.