The idea of advising some one to do this suggests that you see them as not being self sufficient. And that undermines the thought that they would be in a position to do so. The request to forgive is itself a move in the game, and it's often an incoherent move in theGame. I think you can forgive when you can sustain the norm without the help of the other person.
Philosopher Agnes Callard of the University of Chicago talks with EconTalk host Russ Roberts about anger. Is anger something we should vilify and strive to eradicate in ourselves? Or should we accept it as a necessary and appropriate human emotion? Callard takes a fresh look at anger and has much to say about jealousy, desire, and forgiveness as well.