When people with BPD are abandoned, they activate a whole other set of survival mechanisms to pull you back. They'll go full speed ahead on whatever they can do to bring you back. And then there's the actual abandonment. So all of those survival mechanisms disappear. All those reeling you in mechanisms disappear. The fear that you're going to abandon them again happens again. This cycle repeats over and over and over again,. People get fed up with it and they're done. It's such a roller coaster ride. Like honestly, like I was talking to one of my patients a couple years ago, who's a gamer, and they were saying like,You know what this feels like is