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Mentioned in 11 episodes

I Kissed Dating Goodbye

Book • 1997

In 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye', Joshua Harris argues against the conventional dating scene, suggesting it often leads to superficial relationships and emotional harm.

Instead, he advocates for a 'courtship' approach that involves greater parental involvement, group dates, and a focus on purity and marriage intentions.

However, Harris later apologized for the book, acknowledging its flaws and the harm it caused to many readers by instilling fear and promoting a legalistic approach to relationships.

Mentioned by

John Stonestreet

Elisabeth Elliot

Mentioned in 11 episodes

Mentioned by Lori Krieg as a significant piece of her experience in purity culture.

How to Disciple Young Kids in Christian Sexuality, Part 1: Laurie Krieg

Mentioned by

Glennon Doyle

as a popular book about purity culture and abstinence until marriage.

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Mentioned by Fr. Andrew Damick in relation to his leaving Christianity.

When God Became Man

Mentioned as an example of a Christian response to the sexual revolution that ultimately missed the mark.

On Dating & Courtship: Why Christian Parents Have a Duty to See Their Children Married Well

Mentioned in the context of books that people don't like regarding purity culture.

Discipling Kids in a Sexually Broken World With Laurie and Matt Krieg

Mentioned by

Trent Horn

when discussing the case of a pastor leaving the Christian faith.

#943 - How Scandal Unravels Protestantism's "Eternal Security"

Mentioned by

KB

, who said he didn't know who Joshua Harris was when he was younger, and that he kissed that book goodbye after reading some of it.

Episode 802: "The Little Fox of Success"

Mentioned by

Elisabeth Elliot

, expressing her delight for it and seeming to endorse its message.

Give Your Life Away

Mentioned by Jordan Cooper as a popular book in Christian circles that argued against dating.

Joshua Harris and "Purity Culture"

Mentioned by EDJ in the context of purity culture and dating.

Where Does Deconstruction Go From Here?

Mentioned by

Kathy Davidson

as a book she grew up with that only focused on physical boundaries.

Episode 329: Spiritual Boundaries in Dating?

Mentioned by

Erica Smith

in contrast to her own upcoming book, presented as an opposing viewpoint.

Sex After Purity Culture Part 2 with Mattie Jo Cowsert and Erica Smith

Mentioned by the speaker when recalling the summer of 1998 when his girlfriend at the time read it.

October 5, 2025 | Jon Brown

Mentioned by

John Stonestreet

as one of the books written by Christian celebrities who have deconstructed their faith.

Catechism and Celebrity Church Culture

Mentioned as the book that launched Joshua Harris's career within the evangelical world.

Shannon Harris: A Retrospective

Mentioned by

Sean McDowell

, who read it and agreed with some points, but disagreed with others.

The Death of Religion? The Alarming Shift Since 1991 (ft. Christian Smith)

Referenced by Jessica when discussing the 'antithesis to romance manual' for interns at the academy.

Shiny Happy People Season 2: Teen Mania, Radicalisation & the Teenage Holy War

Mentioned as the author of a book that offered a roadmap for Christian teens to avoid dating.

Faith Isn’t Certainty (TAW030)

Mentioned by Jake as a book about courting and dating that influenced James Dobson.

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